In this post, i'm going to share my experience about being OVERFRIENDLY can cause PROBLEMS.....
My friend, Syikin and I went for lunch to IOI mall. As usual being women, we were to excited to walk around the mall...looking at dresses, watches...and sooooooooooo many things..( a typical women style). I need to get some workbook for my tuition classes...so i just ask her to hang around for a while... and i'll go to POPULAR bookstore. ( Peeps... POPULAR Book store at IOI mall is really big and you can spend hours there...).
While, i was busy choosing the books, an Indian girl walk towards me with a bright smile. " Excuse me, are u from Puchong, akka?" she asked me with a very genuine smile. I naively reply her that i'm from UPM. She questioned me further about my life. She was very happy to know that i'm doing postgraduate studies in UPM and we share so many interesting stories... about studies, books, Indian community, my grandmaa, her grandpaa... etc..etc..etc. I were busy talking to her until i totally forgetten about my friend Syikin. Poor soul, had to come looking for me till the bookstore. ( Sorry...Syikin).We exchange contact number's and i gave her a sincere hug. I felt happy to know someone who share's the same interest like me....
2 days later i received a call from her....( Let named her Ms P....). She ask to join her for lunch..i say ok and went to IOI mall to meet her. (Note this point ah, it was lunch break.....so i need to come back to class again.). Since, i need to get something in mall, so i didn't think much and just follow the flow...... Ms P was happy to see me and i'm happy too.. We went around to get my things and as usual...we talk about so much of things...my dreams...my fav vacations.....and the list go on. Just about the the time to leave......... she open her laptop..." Akka, i got something to share with u, it is ok..if you don't want to join, just listen with open minded akka..". Opps...... hmmmm..ok. Then she explain to me about her business plan for more than 1 hour...i had to interrupt her in middle," Can, i know what is the name of your business?''.... Her answer was simple," Listen first akka, i'll let you know after i explain to you about the details.." her voice was very firm and direct too. I was suprised with her answer, then just quietly listen to her. At the end of the conversation, she told that she was doing a business called "A". I sighed and say that my parents are also the member for that direct selling business. We just buy products for home purposes and we are very happy with it. Then she lecture again about making big money doing that business..and all the benefits if sign up as her down line. I try my best to let her know that i'm not interested at all. I become voiceless at that point, i was not given oppurtunity to reject the business. I don't want to be harsh or rude, so i say that, " I rather to join the business through my parents if I"M INTERESTED...". It was already 5 pm. I felt bad for escaping from lab for too long.
I thought the issue over, since i have reject the business plan in a soft manner......but it seems to continue again. She come to look for me to my hostel... can u imagine??? A total stranger, knocking at your door when your not around. My neighbor inform me about this the next day..i was shocked. When i reach my apartment, the security guard man, stopped my car and inform me about this issue. He passed me a small paper note. It was from Ms.P. I called her ask about it. She told me that she just drop by to pass a book and say hello. I was kind off annoyed.
Yesterday, it was about 11pm, i reached my hostel after a long tuition class..... i was shocked to see 2 people waiting for me at my car parking lot. I was so angry....... it was Ms.P and her mother. I felt angry. Both of them talks about their business. I gave a very cold response. I was too tired..... I feel like shouting LEAVE ME ALONE!!! I told them again that i'm tired. They ask for appointment on some other day....... I seriously don't have time. My timetable is packed. They wants to meet me in my parent's house....which is 1 hour driving distance from here..just to talk about their business. I was very annoyed. I don't wish to hurt people, but at the end...i feel my inner peace is gone.... I need to learn to say NO.... and turn offf people, even it might hurt them.
